Top 10 Pieces of Advice for Parents of
Uniquely Gifted Children
Warshaw, M.S.S., M.A.
1. Trust your instincts
You know your
child better than anyone else in the world. Don't assume that professionals
know better because they have credentials.
2. Trust your child
If he says he
can't do something, don't assume that he's being lazy or obstinate or
unmotivated, and don't believe anyone who says that is all that's going on
3. Don't ignore the giftedness while trying to fix the disabilities
depressed when they don't get to learn anything new
4. Don't ignore the disabilities while feeding the giftedness
frustrated/depressed if they are constantly required to do things they can't do
5. Your child can both be in a gifted program and have an IEP or 504 plan
gifted programs can have IEPs or 504 plans. Children with IEPs or 504 plans can
be in gifted programs. They are not mutually exclusive.
6. Don't overwork your child
takes her four times as long as it takes the other kids, have her do 1/4 of the
7. See the good in your child and find time to have fun together
When things are
falling apart, it is easy to lose sight of what we enjoy about our children and
not find time for the good stuff.
8. Take care of yourself
If you fall
apart from exhaustion and neglect, you won't be any good for anyone else
9. Know when to cut your losses
are irreparably bad. If your child's school situation is completely poisoned,
it may be time to look for alternatives (other school, homeschool, whatever)
Local support groups can be great. In addition, the internet has opened a whole
new world, allowing us to connect to people at any hour of day or night.
Support and information are both invaluable.
Copyright 2002, Meredith G.